In the late 90s, I lost some of my best engineers. Not to competitors, but to marriage.
Let me explain.
Back then, CS graduates in India were rare. Maybe less than 100 a year came out of Pune University with the degree. And all of them got scooped up by Infosys, TCS, Wipro, Patni Computers, Mastek (the "safe" names).
So I hired whoever was left. And I trained them for months on real problems, real research, real ownership, and actual product building.
Word got around: "Join
Quick Heal, you'll learn, you'll build, you'll matter."
And slowly, I built a team of genuinely good people who loved the work.
Some left for bigger salaries abroad after a couple of years (fair enough, that's the game).
But the ones who stayed, who I really believed in, I lost several of them to something I never saw coming.
Their parents started looking for a match. Arranged marriage was the norm. And the first question from the bride's side was always: "Where does your son work?"
"Cat Computer Services. Antivirus software." (that was before we name it “
Quick Heal Technologies”).
Then they'd visit the office that had no fancy furniture, no glass cabins. Just makeshift tables and a small team building something nobody outside understood yet.
The proposal would get rejected.
In some cases, the match simply didn't move forward after the family saw where the groom worked.
And soon after, the parents would say: "Why are you wasting your time here when MNCs are offering you double?"
I couldn't compete with that. Not with logic, not with vision, not even with loyalty.
Some who genuinely enjoyed working with us still chose to leave because their family wanted the stability that came with a well known company and see them settled.
A few months later, I'd hear he got married.
I was genuinely happy for them. But it taught me something about building in India in the 90s:
You're not just competing for talent. You're competing with an entire social system's definition of "security."
We didn't have that kind of security to offer back then. What we had was purpose. And it took years before purpose alone was enough to keep people, and stay married too.
Looking back, I don't blame the parents either. They wanted what every parent wants: stability for their children. In the India of the late 90s, a large, well known company was the safest answer they knew.
Founders from the 90s: did you experience something similar?
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