Here is a trick that has helped me gain equity with my peers at work. Find ways to "Yes". Can you do review this doc ? Yes, right away. Can you mentor a new person on team ? Yes, excited to do so. Can you explain this code ? Yes, my pleasure. Can you fix this bug ? Yes, it's a nasty one. Want to go on a trip ? Yes, I love those! Even when you need to say no, find ways to say "Yes". Do you know about XYZ ? No, but I will learn and get back to you. Do you speak Chinese ? No, but I know someone who does. Every time you say "no" you are denying yourself an opportunity and every opportunity is just another step towards success.
But there are times when you are too overwhelmed with "opportunities" that you develop a FOMO out of it. I think, it's ok to say no sometimes. Because nowadays people are stressing out too much due to this "FOMO" and in the meantime maybe missing out on the basic principle of life and the truth that life is too long and its ok to just let your subconscious make the decisions.
I agree with this
While I am completely with the idea of helping someone out by connecting them with the right resources/people in your sphere, things often aren't as generalised as you posit. Saying "Yes" to any and every thing, even the ones that don't necessarily make you happy or aid your growth, isn't very wise after all. It's completely situational and a matter of healthy Yea-Nay balance. But hey, that is just how I feel!
As much as I appreciate this post and agree with it, but what about "learn to say no when necessary". That's something we all struggle with somehow, to say no comfotably.. Would like to hear thoughts.
It holds good not only peers at work, indeed in all circumstances throughout life.
It's a swift balance between what you're interested in as well. I do like the "No, but I will learn and get back to you." which is what I use extensively and get back. This helps me: 1. Learn about new things 2. Bring back relevant answers 3. Work through my own blindspots before sharing a complete picture.
Well said! Ashish Kedia