Training Team to Focus on Output, Not Time

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I ignore my team if they say: - I have a doctors appointment this afternoon - I will be picking up the kids later - I'm popping out for lunch - Just taking the dog for a walk No reply. Not even a Slack emoji. Just white space. Why? I'm training them to stop asking. As I don't care. They'll all adults. I care: - If they are getting results - If they are happy Welcome to macro-management. Their life is their life. We don't track time, we track output.

You're not training them to think you don't care if they take time off. You're training them to think you don't care about them. A short personal acknowledgment is a great way to build connection, while reinforcing that they don't need to tell you unless they want to. - I have a doctors appointment this afternoon "Hope all goes well." - I will be picking up the kids later "Enjoy your time with them." - I'm popping out for lunch "Ok. Enjoy, but maybe skip the third martini." 😁 - Just taking the dog for a walk "Tell Fido I said I know things are ruff." Sometimes people aren't asking for permission as much as they're simply being considerate. Why not use that moment to connect? P.S. I was just kidding about the martini and dog jokes. When I use those, I usually get the facepalm or eyeroll emoji as a reply. Can't blame them.

agree with the principle, output over hours and adults run their own calendars. the ignoring part i'd push back on though. silence doesn't train people to stop asking, it trains them to guess what you're ok with, and they usually over-index on being seen. a one line 'you don't need to clear that with me' gets the same autonomy without the second-guessing. same goal, i just don't think the white space does what you want it to.

Your staff don’t need to be “trained” not to communicate, they need psychological safety and mutual respect. Silence can create unnecessary anxiety for the sender, who has no idea whether their message was seen, understood or even acceptable, which I doubt is the intention here. A simple 👍🏼, “Thanks”, or “Noted” takes seconds. It’s common courtesy, and nobody likes being left on read.

Tom, the trust only works if you say it out loud once. I know many go quiet expecting people to read it as freedom, but silence is ambiguous, so I've learned to tell them plainly "you never owe me a reason" and then let the white space mean what I want it to mean.

The irony is that many workplaces say they trust adults, then expect a running commentary on every dentist appointment and dog walk. Real trust isn't measured by who's online at 2:17pm; it's measured by whether people deliver, feel supported and don't need permission to live their lives. That's leadership without the micromanagement hangover.

I agree with your intention. But for many of us, including those of us who are neurodivergent, the lack of response can indicate you don’t care about us, or that you’re unhappy and can send the wrong signal. Just letting them know that you don’t need them to tell you those things would be very helpful in building trust and alleviating any worry on their end.

How does your team feel about this?  If they are still asking, maybe this "training" method isn't working.  Your silence might actually be making people nervous and that's why they keep asking.  Reminding your team that you don't need updates about this type of thing because you trust them to manage their work, can go a long way.

That’s a serious lack of communication. It’s better if you tell them about what you think and you want them to stop asking just say it. We are human beings, not some AI models you need to train….

Ignoring a message could make them feel you are being passive aggressive about it. If you really want to build that culture maybe reply with, “appreciate the heads up, but there is no need to inform me about these types of things. Take the time you need to do what you need, I trust you will deliver your results.” Your thinking is spot on, but a lot of people have years of micro management trauma to work through!

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