Elevate Your Life with Circle Management: Crafting Your Inner Circle for Success

We’ve all heard the saying

you are the average of the 5 people who you spend the most time with.

Or “

show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future

Unfortunately for many of us, this is true.

I want to suggest a simple framework to improve your surroundings that I call “Circle Management”. 

The idea behind circle management is a 5 step process that goes like this:

1. Look at who is currently in your sacred inner circle (defined as the circle of people who are closest to you)
2. Write down what is required for someone new to enter the sacred inner circle
3. Write down what is required for someone to stay inside the sacred inner circle
4. Write down your criteria for removing someone from the sacred inner circle
5. Start implementing steps 2-4

There are many things you may want to consider when writing down your criteria. 

Most importantly is asking yourself the simple yet profound question of “what do I want?”

Do I want to optimize for health? Wealth? Fulfillment? Happiness? Experiences? Peace? Comfort? Expansion? 

Once you’ve determined what you want, then think about people throughout your life who have improved your life just by their presence. 

What did these people do? How did they interact with you? How did they make you feel? How did they celebrate you? How did they make time for you? How did they listen?

Then, start to build your criteria. A helpful way to think through this is to say “Based on what I want, and great examples throughout my life, here is my criteria for who comes in, who stays, and who goes out”. 

It could include things like:

1. I need people who make me laugh
2. I need people who help improve my financial situation
3. I need people who celebrate my success and lift me up
4. I need people who will be there when I fall, not just when it is convenient
5. I need people who will push me to be better and hold me accountable
6. I need people who give as much or more than they take from the relationship
7. I need people who will answer when I call
8. I need people who simply make me feel good when I am around them

Now that you’ve gotten this far, here is the hardest part and you knew it was coming…

You need to decide if everyone in your circle should stay. Statistically speaking, half of your sacred inner circle should not be there. 

There are really only two ways to do this.

Way #1 - Rip the bandaid off and inform them that you will be creating some space (very difficult, and not always the right way, but can be depending on the person)

Way #2 - Slowly start to distance yourself from these individuals until they fade away completely or into a less sacred circle

This is one simple mechanism that you can implement within 30 days to drastically improve your position in life. Now, go do it!

Until next time friends 🙏

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