I believe coaching is intimate work. Remote works. We run a remote company, and I've seen real trust built over a screen plenty of times. But for me, personally, coaching senior executives through the moments that matter most, I still choose to be in the room where I can. So even though I embrace the tools (Teams, Zoom, all of it) where I can, I show up in person. That's why I split my life between Palm Springs and a corporate apartment in Boston — I'm currently coaching more than 40 senior executives in the area. Every other week, I'm here. Beautiful in July. A different conversation entirely come February.
Francesca, my dog, my road partner, and now the proud owner of a small collection of airline wings pins, comes with me. She's better traveled than most executives I coach.
People who haven't done this work assume it's soft. A few conversations, some coffee, a nice chat about "growth." It isn't. No two weeks look the same out here, and this one was relentless. A snapshot of what "in the field" actually looks like:
▪️18 coaching sessions
▪️3 MBTI readouts (I've been a practitioner for 25+ years, taken over 4,000 executives and teams through their results)
▪️4 360-degree feedback readouts
▪️24 live interviews for 360s I'm running across several companies
▪️2 Board of Directors meetings
▪️3 mentoring sessions with emerging leaders
▪️4 sessions helping people navigate job searches: resumes, positioning, strategy
▪️5 internal meetings with my
LEAD3R colleagues, who I'd run through a wall for
▪️4 design sessions for upcoming customer workshops
▪️5 planning meetings for our 2nd Annual LEAD3R Healthy Team Summit, coming to Boston this October, details here:
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If you strip away the noise, none of that gets done well on empty. I've watched good leaders try to run at that pace without building in real recovery, and it catches up with them. They burn out, or worse, they start phoning it in without noticing.
So the massage, the swim, the gallery opening, the dinner with an old colleague — that's not downtime I squeezed in around the work. That's part of how the work gets done well. Rest isn't a reward you earn after the job is finished. It's the infrastructure that makes the next 18 sessions, the next boardroom, the next hard conversation, possible without cutting corners.
People underestimate how much of high performance is actually recovery discipline, not hustle discipline. Anyone can grind for a week. The leaders, and the coaches, who last are the ones who treat rest as seriously as they treat the work itself.